We got married 5 years ago today.
Happy anniversary baby!
Instead of doing a sappy anniversary post like I normally do (and Dameon is so embarrassed by), I’m going to write about (EEK) all the wedding blunders I made.
I’m hoping to help some upcoming brides when planning so they can make sure they feel 100% happy with their wedding choices.
I didn’t have a clear game plan.
When it came time to plan, I was so overwhelmed.
Instead of sitting down, soul searching and deciding what I really loved and what would best reflect our personalities, I just went with things we liked.
I also picked like 5 colors for my wedding colors.
I don’t even want to tell you what they were.
I cringe thinking about it.
They turned out pretty, but oh my gosh.
Less is more.
I’ll say it again because it’s so important- LESS IS MORE.
I would recommend having a “color scheme” you’re shooting for, not 5 colors that don’t even really go together.
When taking the getting ready photos of me and my bridesmaids, I didn’t think to clear everything into a corner.
I didn’t even think about it (as most brides don’t).
You can see in one the photos that there’s a ton of stuff in the background.
Put all the crap in a corner!
Exibit A- why I included this tip in my bride magazine I send to all my brides.
I didn’t write my vows.
I’m still kicking myself to this day,
I was so stressed, and I didn’t want to add another thing to my to-do list.
So we used generic vows.
I really wish more than anything I would have written something heartfelt and personal.
I didn’t really think about things “big picture”.
For example, the arch.
My aunt, who used to be a florist, did all out florals.
OHMYGOSH they were to die for.
The arch was covered in the most gorgeous hydrangeas.
When you look at the photos, the arch kind of blends in with the trees.
This is 100% my fault. I told her green hydrangeas because that was one of my wedding colors.
When you have something that gorgeous, you don’t want it to blend it.
It needs to be able to stand out so it can be fully appreciated!
We rented the cheapest chairs.
I want to go back in time and slap myself for this one.
I was thinking “well, how many photos would they be in? it’s not really that important.”
Wrong, cheapskate Ashley. Wrong.
They were just kind of an eyesore.
I see the photos and cringe.
LOOK AT THOSE CHAIRS. EHHH.
Get the nicer chairs y’all!
We didn’t have a first look.
I wanted to be traditional and him not to see me until the ceremony.
I loved the picture of his reaction.
Does that one picture of his reaction replace multiple pictures that we could have had of both of us?
Intimate, romantic pictures of us? To me, the answer is no.
A big misconception is that if he has already seen you, his reaction as you walk down the aisle will be “less wow”.
In my experience, that just isn’t true.
It’s such an intense, overwhelming moment as you walk down that aisle, either way.
I wish I would have had a first look more than anything.
I didn’t drink enough water.
I got a headache halfway through the day.
The wedding day was pretty hard to fully enjoy while my head was pounding.
Even if you don’t feel thirsty, keep hydrating!
Bridesmaids, keep bringing water to the bride.
Peer pressure her to drink that water!
I didn’t get my final fitting done late enough.
Usually it’s like 2-3 weeks before is the very last fitting to make sure it fits perfect.
Well, I got mine done too early.
And guess who lost weight before the wedding because they were stressing the EFFF out?
Get your dress fitted at the right time to avoid the funky fit and get the perfect fit!
I didn’t realize how important the photographer was.
My mom (bless her heart for dealing with my stressed-out-bridezilla ass), hired the photographer.
I was happy because in my mind “it was one thing off my to-do list.”
Let me tell you, we weren’t the right fit.
Our personalities just didn’t click, and I didn’t enjoy the experience with my photographer like I know now that I should have.
I look at my wedding photos, and I see how uncomfortable I felt around that photographer.
That is what I see.
We had just a little bit or reception coverage.
The photographer left after the important things- the cake cutting, garter toss, father daughter dance.
I wish I would’ve had him stay for at least an hour more to capture some of the sweet dance moves.
All our friends did a dance to “friends in low places” and we all stood in a line, all drinks in hand.
I just have a phone picture of it and I would pay GOOD money to have that bad boy in good quality to hang on my wall!
Get at least some of the dancing captured!
Our wedding was beautiful and I loved it.
There’s just a few things I would do differently if we had to go back and do it again.
Learn from me y’all.
Photo credit- Wedding Bug Photography